The Tangible Rewards of Self-Love
For all this talk about self-love, is it just fluffy advice or are there tangible results that you gain from loving yourself?
The best reason to love yourself completely:
· You get to be who you really are.
· When you are safe to be yourself, you enjoy life to the fullest and you can openly share your gifts with the world.
· When you love yourself, everyone in your life benefits because that is how you learn to love others, by loving yourself first.
When you love and accept yourself and know your value, you are more likely to choose relationships with people who support you, treat you well, and are not afraid to see you shine.
What could be better than that?
Why is it difficult to love oneself unconditionally?
Those little voices of self-criticism and self-doubt often get in the way. When you focus on what is wrong, what needs fixing and what is broken about you, you wear your self down. Try focusing on what is right about you. Know and appreciate your strengths
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If you have thoughts that you aren’t good enough, or that you are un-deserving, you are not connecting with others the same as you would if you thought the opposite
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You will try and fill that lack of connection with something else that doesn’t work for you like shopping, drugs, drink, or food. You will even do irrational things to prove your thoughts are correct.
Why do we have these thoughts in the first place if they do not serve us? By the time we are 7 years old, our minds have literally been programmed with all that we need to survive. This is the miracle of the child’s brain before 7, it is in a theta state, absorbing everything that is presented to it from parents, teachers, peers, doctors, preachers and siblings
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At that age, we don’t have the ability to think rationally, so we accept everything that is taught to us and we also make up our own stories. When someone tells us no we think, “they told me no because I am not good enough, because I am bad, because
I am not worthy.” These kinds of thoughts are hidden in your subconscious and they are dictating the way you behave in life and in relationships.
Finding happiness can be a lifelong venture if we insist on holding on to these self-sabotaging thoughts.
Fifty five years in and I can say I love myself as I was introduced to work that allowed me to look at some of these beliefs that were not serving me and flip them around. I wonder how different my life would look if I had learned about the process of changing beliefs earlier in life. There is no time like the present to begin changing that inner dialog. Begin in the morning, saying, I love you while looking into the mirror, and say it with a smile and a wink. Have a conversation with yourself every day while looking into your own glorious eyes. Really look into your eyes with wonder and acceptance.
Do this every day for eight weeks so that you embody the message completely. Now I’d love to hear from you. Please let me know how the experience has changed you and enhanced your life.
Bio of Ramona Beville:
Ramona is a woman’s leadership coach and facilitator. She combines ancient wisdom with the latest findings in neuroscience, positive psychology, and behavior modeling to facilitate her clients’ ability to increase congruency by matching their beliefs with their desires.
Her unique credentials allow her to work with clients to create a powerful road map to the levels of health, joy and the abundance they deserve. Working with Ramona, you get clearer and more aware of the choices and personal power you have to make a positive difference in your life and the lives of others.
Clients appreciate Ramona's willingness to listen, share and guide them to increase their ability to lead from the heart without judgment. She is excited to facilitate sweeping change for those that are ready for it today. You can reach her at ramonabeville@me.com, and visit her website at www.enjoywithramona.com